You and I both know how important it is to develop self-esteem for our children and ourselves. Experts have discovered that a REAL sense of self-worth doesn’t come from just any old feel-good praise you receive. You have to feel you deserve the praise. When you experience a sense of accomplishment and pride it builds self-worth that really benefits you.
That means that self-esteem comes directly from recognizing past successes. We can’t control whether others recognize us for our victories, so the question is, are YOU recognizing your successes? Are you acknowledging them? Are you forgetting about them?
Think about how you talk to yourself. Ninety-five percent of the thoughts we have every day are repetitive, so chances are you have been saying the same things to yourself over and over. Does any of this sound familiar?
“Oh, I should have known better”
“I can’t do anything right”
“Ugh, I’m such an idiot!”
What is your child saying over and over to themselves? Take a minute to sit down and think about it. Or take a day to notice what goes through your mind throughout the day and do a “thought journal”. Then, at the end of the day, do the Mirror Exercsie and see how your thoughts change and also your self-esteem. It’s natural to feel a little awkward, silly, or emotional when you try it out. Keep at it and reap the results!
Credit to Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles and co-author ofChicken Soup for the Soul® for the Mirror Exercise.
The Mirror Exercise Explained
Every night, before going to bed, stand in front of a mirror and appreciate yourself for all that you accomplished during the day. Look deep into your eyes and hold for a few seconds. Maintain eye contact with yourself throughout the exercise. When you have completed the first two steps, finish by saying “I love you.” Then stand there for a few seconds to really feel the impact of the experience.
4 Simple Steps:
1. Say your name.
2. Appreciate yourself: your accomplishments, successes, risks taken, disciplines kept and temptations resisted.
3. Say “I love you!” to yourself.
4. Take it in by taking a deep breath.
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